Random thoughts III

Home at last
So how's everyone?

Shanna, talk about dreams and such. I had a horrible nightmare last night, in which you were involved. It was at my grandmas house and you were in her kitchen making sandwiches for some reason. And when I walk out there I see a bomb on the floor, and it gave off this bright white flash, which I somehow understood to mean that in exactly ten seconds it would go off. So I just screamed at you "Shanna, RUN!" and then there was all this chaos, the house blew up, and the next second I was running down some street with a child in my arms and it turned into another dream, so I don't even know if you made it out.
Very upsetting. You've been on my mind all day because of this.

As for your friend. I've had a few of those as well, who can't seem to deal with life alone. They have to have some guy to validate them. And what I have learned is that it won't matter what you say. They'll do what they want to do no matter what, and have to learn the hard way. (If they even learn... Desperate people...)
You've already told her what you think, and there's really nothing more to do. She has to make her choice and deal with the consequences unless she decides to do something else with her Friday.


Sez, feel free to talk to us, if you want to

MsFalange wrote:

I'm so tired!

MissLilly wrote:

Home at last
So how's everyone?

Shanna, talk about dreams and such. I had a horrible nightmare last night, in which you were involved. It was at my grandmas house and you were in her kitchen making sandwiches for some reason. And when I walk out there I see a bomb on the floor, and it gave off this bright white flash, which I somehow understood to mean that in exactly ten seconds it would go off. So I just screamed at you "Shanna, RUN!" and then there was all this chaos, the house blew up, and the next second I was running down some street with a child in my arms and it turned into another dream, so I don't even know if you made it out.
Very upsetting. You've been on my mind all day because of this.

As for your friend. I've had a few of those as well, who can't seem to deal with life alone. They have to have some guy to validate them. And what I have learned is that it won't matter what you say. They'll do what they want to do no matter what, and have to learn the hard way. (If they even learn... Desperate people...)
You've already told her what you think, and there's really nothing more to do. She has to make her choice and deal with the consequences unless she decides to do something else with her Friday.

That is a crazy dream!

I'm just at a loss with my friend. She's like the little sister I always wanted and I hate seeing her make bad decisions.

Thanks guys - just feelings for like two people atm...a guy and a girl lol - sometimes I don't talk about it because people judge me

Yeah that's why everyday I go out when I can, to clear my head
Can't wait until I see my psychiatrist in 2 weeks lol

Thanks guys


On another note: Damn my trainer killed my legs today >.<

Shanna_ wrote:

Span_ski wrote:

Right ok then lol...

Tell her to pass on both the acid and the ex, and use the money she's saved on the acid to invest in a vibrator or something?

There... problem solved?

I just read this response to her. Word for word. She said that the acid was free and then turned really red.

Taking any kind of drug with a group of guys you've only known for a month is not a good idea. Whether they're free drugs or not. Especially if you've never done them before and don't know how they affect you. Potentially dangerous.

Sex with an ex isn't so bad if you both know the score I guess. Seems like the lesser of the two evils.

I've also had to deal with a friend having a breakdown today too. I don't know what to say to her anymore. She just cried all over my desk. I asked her what's wrong and she told me she doesn't know, and she hates feeling like this and not knowing what's wrong is making her feel even worse and all I could do was cwtch her.

Shanna: How about asking if she wants to do something with you on Friday though? Then she has an option.

Sez: Well, if there's ever a safe place to talk about that, here would be it
Do they have feelings for you as well? Are you involved with any of them?

Charlie wrote:

Taking any kind of drug with a group of guys you've only known for a month is not a good idea. Whether they're free drugs or not. Especially if you've never done them before and don't know how they affect you. Potentially dangerous.

Sex with an ex isn't so bad if you both know the score I guess. Seems like the lesser of the two evils.

I've also had to deal with a friend having a breakdown today too. I don't know what to say to her anymore. She just cried all over my desk. I asked her what's wrong and she told me she doesn't know, and she hates feeling like this and not knowing what's wrong is making her feel even worse and all I could do was cwtch her.

It must be a day for friend issues! I told her that she was getting herself into a gang bang by doing a bunch of drugs with a bunch of guys. I'm blunt like that. I wouldn't have an issue with the ex sex if he wasn't still in love with her. He also works with us.

MissLilly wrote:

Shanna: How about asking if she wants to do something with you on Friday though? Then she has an option.

I tried that. She decided that she wants to do something with me tomorrow instead.

You can't help people who don't want to help themselves, Shanna. There's nothing more you can do.

Also, didn't you say he broke up with her? Why, if he's still in love with her?

Yeah, so that means she's basically already decided that she's doing either of the guys on Friday.
Nudge her towards the ex. As Charlie says, lesser of two evils.

Shanna_ wrote:

Span_ski wrote:

Right ok then lol...

Tell her to pass on both the acid and the ex, and use the money she's saved on the acid to invest in a vibrator or something?

There... problem solved?

I just read this response to her. Word for word. She said that the acid was free and then turned really red.

Sorry - I didn't mean to make your friend blush... damn my lack of british filter to stop me staying inappropriate stuff. lol

Shanna_ wrote:

That is a crazy dream!

I'm just at a loss with my friend. She's like the little sister I always wanted and I hate seeing her make bad decisions.

Yes, it's awful seeing people you care about make bad choices, but unfortunately sometimes, these things are out of our hands

Charlie wrote:

I've also had to deal with a friend having a breakdown today too. I don't know what to say to her anymore. She just cried all over my desk. I asked her what's wrong and she told me she doesn't know, and she hates feeling like this and not knowing what's wrong is making her feel even worse and all I could do was cwtch her.

Yep, I know that feeling, sometimes, there's nothing you can really do to make a person feel better, no matter how hard you try. I have a similar situation going on here, and it's been like a 2 year battle trying to convince them to get help, which they refuse to do, and is becoming increasingly destructive to the point my best option is always to leave once I've done all I can to assist with the practicalities.

MissLilly wrote:

Shanna: How about asking if she wants to do something with you on Friday though? Then she has an option.

This sounds like a much better piece of advice than my earlier attempt.

Cwtches all round I think today


EDIT: If Lillys advice is out of the question, then yes, the ex is the lesser of 2 evils.

Well yes. The guy plays darts and we sometimes practice at his uncles place some nights. The girl believe it or not is my personal trainer and she's 100% into guys (I think she has a boyfriend herself lol) I think it's more of a discovery crush with her. I am definitely pansexual (I look more on personally then looks) and yeah that's how I'm attractived to both of them.

I would chose the guy over the girl because I has known him for longer plus he's so caring and sweet. He just doesn't notice me in the way I see him (more than friends)

Excuse the weird typing I'm on my iPod lol

Charlie wrote:

You can't help people who don't want to help themselves, Shanna. There's nothing more you can do.

Also, didn't you say he broke up with her? Why, if he's still in love with her?

Yep, he did the dumping but regretted it right away. He's been trying to get back with her since then. He even told her he was ok with the new guy and that if she stopped it with him that they could work through everything.

Sez,

Shanna_ wrote:

Charlie wrote:

You can't help people who don't want to help themselves, Shanna. There's nothing more you can do.

Also, didn't you say he broke up with her? Why, if he's still in love with her?

Yep, he did the dumping but regretted it right away. He's been trying to get back with her since then. He even told her he was ok with the new guy and that if she stopped it with him that they could work through everything.

Sez,

Oh dear... What a mess. And now she's not interested in him?

And a Welsh one from me, Sez.

Sez wrote:

Well yes. The guy plays darts and we sometimes practice at his uncles place some nights. The girl believe it or not is my personal trainer and she's 100% into guys (I think she has a boyfriend herself lol) I think it's more of a discovery crush with her. I am definitely pansexual (I look more on personally then looks) and yeah that's how I'm attractived to both of them.

I would chose the guy over the girl because I has known him for longer plus he's so caring and sweet. He just doesn't notice me in the way I see him (more than friends)

Excuse the weird typing I'm on my iPod lol

I don't know what to say about the personal trainer crush. She's sorta out of the question, isn't she? Is that difficult for you, or are you okay with that?

About the guy, what if you try to talk to him? He might surprise you. If you really feel for him, it's a chance worth taking in my book.
Or you know, put on your womanly charms and make him see it

MissLilly wrote:

Sez wrote:

Well yes. The guy plays darts and we sometimes practice at his uncles place some nights. The girl believe it or not is my personal trainer and she's 100% into guys (I think she has a boyfriend herself lol) I think it's more of a discovery crush with her. I am definitely pansexual (I look more on personally then looks) and yeah that's how I'm attractived to both of them.

I would chose the guy over the girl because I has known him for longer plus he's so caring and sweet. He just doesn't notice me in the way I see him (more than friends)

Excuse the weird typing I'm on my iPod lol

I don't know what to say about the personal trainer crush. She's sorta out of the question, isn't she? Is that difficult for you, or are you okay with that?

About the guy, what if you try to talk to him? He might surprise you. If you really feel for him, it's a chance worth taking in my book.
Or you know, put on your womanly charms and make him see it

Yeah trainer is out of the question I knew that already

But yeah I'm super shy around the guy. Might see if I request a practice night for darts and see if he rocks up

Thanks so much guys for the hugs

Sez wrote:

Yeah trainer is out of the question I knew that already

But yeah I'm super shy around the guy. Might see if I request a practice night for darts and see if he rocks up

Thanks so much guys for the hugs

You should totally do that! All the luck to you, hun! I'm cheering on you!

Charlie wrote:

Oh dear... What a mess. And now she's not interested in him?

I asked her if she was still in love with him today and she said no and that she didn't know if she ever really was. They dated for a year so that sucks for him. Personally I think she should try a girl and see where that leads. I tell her that all the time too. Anyway, it's a giant hot mess.

Shanna_ wrote:

Charlie wrote:

Oh dear... What a mess. And now she's not interested in him?

I asked her if she was still in love with him today and she said no and that she didn't know if she ever really was. They dated for a year so that sucks for him. Personally I think she should try a girl and see where that leads. I tell her that all the time too. Anyway, it's a giant hot mess.

She should try a girl... That made me chuckle.

It does sound like a mess. People eh? Lol.

Just found the best smiley ever. Too bad it's in French (I think it's French...?) but you get the gist

LOL Those lesbian ones are too funny.


Span, since you are a seafarer:

Bah ha ha ha!

Thanks mate

I had the weirdest dreams/nightmares in these past nights - maybe that's why I'm so tired.

In the last one I was at school (though it didn't really look like my school, the halls were similar but the classroom was unrecognizably).
For some reason I had a newspaper in front of me and there was an article about one of my closest and dearest friends who was on holiday in Turkey in this dream. Apparently her 'clique' gave her a car as a present and she was in a horrible accident with it in Turkey and died (that was, what the article was about).
...Like???


I'm sort of dreading tomorrow. It's the day of the obsequies and I've been distracting myself pretty well for these past days.
Also my grandma will hear the results of her check-up tomorrow and we'll know if the radio-therapy was successful.
So sort of a really big day ahead of me.

Alcohol between classes is highly underrated.

Here they say that if you dream about someone dying you actually extend their life, so cheer up!

5 days... just 5 more days... focus Han... focus.