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eli_
Posts: 1158
 | | Subject: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 8:15 pm | |
| I've always wanted a place where we can swap stories and discuss things related to the LGBT community, since looks like almost everyone on this forum is part of it  First question I'd love to ask: how/when did you realize you were gay/bi etc? From my esperience, people usually - always knew - realized it during puberty (that's me) or - only realized it much later in life |
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Isa
Posts: 2188
Location: Brasil
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 8:21 pm | |
|  Finally! Ok, I think I started suspecting when I when I was like 16 or something, but I only decided to act on it when I was 19-20. By then I had no gay friends and I didn't feel like talking to my girl friends so it was kinda difficult because I just didn't know what to do. It took me a while to actually do something. When I was 22 I finally met some lesbians and some months later I finally kissed a girl and I liked it. Never kissed a guy again since then. |
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Charlie
Posts: 2152
Location: Wales
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 9:01 pm | |
| I always knew. I first kissed a girl when I was around 13. She was my best friend at school. We used to kiss and stuff all the time. Then she got a boyfriend and broke my heart. We stopped talking after that.  I first slept with a girl when I was 16, she was 24, we were together for nearly 2 years. She turned into a 'see you next Tuesday', she started using the age difference to manipulate me. Everything I did was wrong, it didn't matter what I said. She broke up with me and told me she didn't love me anymore when she went to America for a couple of months. Then changed her mind and said it was the biggest mistake she ever made blah blah. We got back together and I broke up with her a few months later because I couldn't cope with the mind games anymore. I've only kissed two guys. One was when I was 15 and I was absolutely smashed because of tequila. I was so had I didn't even know what I was doing, when I 'woke up' some guy from my year in school had his tongue down my throat. I sobered up pretty quick after that. Lol. I also kissed my housemate once because he was upset that he had only been hit on by guys. It hilarious and super awkward. I've never, ever slept with a guy. I later found out that I'm allergic to tequila btw. Explains a lot...
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Shanna_
Posts: 1268
Location: Ohio
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 9:20 pm | |
| I think I always knew but I was so not ok with it. I was convinced I was going to Hell by the time I was 9 because I knew something wasn't right with me. Accepting myself has been an uphill climb to say the least. I have dated so many guys in the past with that hope that something would change if I tried hard enough. I didn't want to face my family if I accepted myself. I grew up with too many comments to believe that things would be ok if I pursued anything. It's sad that the motivation for anything in my life has been death. I was only able to take a chance on my feelings once my dad and both of his parents were dead. They were too scary to disappoint. I only talked to my mom after the person I was in love with died in a car accident. I realized then that life was too short and I had to stop trying to please everyone else. It's hard for me still because I pretended for so long. I manipulate guys still because the facade is second nature. I'm the worst lesbian ever because I've played the role "straight girl" so long that it's hard to seperate the fact and fiction. Hmmm, I think I'm depressing. |
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Charlie
Posts: 2152
Location: Wales
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Isa
Posts: 2188
Location: Brasil
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 9:38 pm | |
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Charlie
Posts: 2152
Location: Wales
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 9:40 pm | |
| | Shanna_ wrote: | | I think I always knew but I was so not ok with it. I was convinced I was going to Hell by the time I was 9 because I knew something wasn't right with me. Accepting myself has been an uphill climb to say the least. I have dated so many guys in the past with that hope that something would change if I tried hard enough. I didn't want to face my family if I accepted myself. I grew up with too many comments to believe that things would be ok if I pursued anything. It's sad that the motivation for anything in my life has been death. I was only able to take a chance on my feelings once my dad and both of his parents were dead. They were too scary to disappoint. I only talked to my mom after the person I was in love with died in a car accident. I realized then that life was too short and I had to stop trying to please everyone else. It's hard for me still because I pretended for so long. I manipulate guys still because the facade is second nature. I'm the worst lesbian ever because I've played the role "straight girl" so long that it's hard to seperate the fact and fiction. Hmmm, I think I'm depressing. |
You're not depressing. Yeah, some bad things have happened in your life but I think how you've dealt with them says a lot about your character. And sometimes bad things are a catalyst for people to realise something that was in them all along, that they are strong and brave enough to be who they are, to show the world who they are and not give a shit what the world thinks. |
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Charlie
Posts: 2152
Location: Wales
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 9:41 pm | |
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Charlie
Posts: 2152
Location: Wales
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 9:42 pm | |
| Oh, and Eli? Get your story over here.  |
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Isa
Posts: 2188
Location: Brasil
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Charlie
Posts: 2152
Location: Wales
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 9:44 pm | |
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Charlie
Posts: 2152
Location: Wales
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 9:46 pm | |
| Oh, I also had a very strange relationship with my English Literature teacher when I was 15. I think that's what made me really think 'yeah, this is fine, I'm normal'. Not that I was ever in denial before. I just kind of accepted that I was 'weird'. |
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voteforalice1
Posts: 1398
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 9:55 pm | |
| | Isabela wrote: | Finally!
Ok, I think I started suspecting when I when I was like 16 or something, but I only decided to act on it when I was 19-20. By then I had no gay friends and I didn't feel like talking to my girl friends so it was kinda difficult because I just didn't know what to do. It took me a while to actually do something. When I was 22 I finally met some lesbians and some months later I finally kissed a girl and I liked it. Never kissed a guy again since then. |
And how did you do this? Cause i'm dying here. All the experiences i've had with girls have been my friends and i having little "things". One was pretty significant though. Ugh, i dunno.
@Shanna Just 
@Charlie-good for you for breaking up with her in the end. No one likes to fucked with.
My story-idek- when did i realise? I think i started having feelings towards women (i.e. not girls my age) when i was like 13, but i always thought i just really admired them..then later on, maybe at 15? i started thinking about "gay" as a label and fighting the idea off. Also started liking someone my own age at that point... from then on, i think i started to "embrace the gay" with the help of TLW lol.
As for experience- so messy. Umm first almost-sexual experience with a girl at 14.... Then some other stuff along the way with other people....... Always liked it though
With my ex boyfriend- sex was boring, the relationship was boring, i was the worst girlfriend ever haha. I pretty much faked everything and didnt feel bad for him at all.
EDIT- Wow, why do i not use punctuation correctly? It's annoying me. |
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Shanna_
Posts: 1268
Location: Ohio
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 10:02 pm | |
| My journey also led to the worst advice ever. I was a hot mess for awhile so I decided to see someone about my steamer trunk of issues and advice to my trying to come to terms was go out and sleep with a lot of guys. She said that some meaningless flings would make things easier. I'm a little impressionable and decided that if that was what the professional thought I should do then that's what i'd do. Who knew that slutting it up was thought of as a good thing? |
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Isa
Posts: 2188
Location: Brasil
| | Subject: Re: LGBT talk Wed Jan 04, 2012 10:12 pm | |
| | voteforalice1 wrote: | And how did you do this? Cause i'm dying here. All the experiences i've had with girls have been my friends and i having little "things". One was pretty significant though. Ugh, i dunno.
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Well, I spend two years trying to figure out what to do, because, as I said before, I had no gay friends and I'm just terrible as expressing my feelings. Also, all my crushes were fairly straight girls back then, so I had no experience, no gay friends, nothing. So after sometime I approached one girl on the internet. She was friends with a group of lesbians from my town and I was just trying to be friends with them, but I ended up meeting her and going out with her for some weeks. This girl and this group were kinda awful though and had nothing to do with me but meeting them made me met a girl some months after that who ended up being my trully first love. And she was the girl I told you guys some days ago, that is now engaged to a guy. |
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Must have been hard not having anyone to talk to about it for that long. 
